It’s hard for you to turn them down? – Yeah. – It’s really difficult
I have never used them. – Neverrr
I will not chat up girls. I’ll just think they’re cute to myself.
You think it but you don’t act? – Yeah
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Those apps are recently more popular. – They are?
The wedding ones! – Yeah!
I have never done them have you?
I definitely will NEVER try that. – You won’t? But recently
it is more accepted. I think some people do it nowadays.
I would not do it though. – You set definitely NEVER
try that. Why? – Well…
It’s men I have never met, I don’t know who they are. What if I meet them
and they seem like a nice person but then after talking I realize…
he has ulterior motives… I would struggle turning him down properly
That’s why I shouldn’t even start it
It’s hard for Japanese girls to turn men down?
That’s it. I struggle with that. It’s difficult. – How…
do you meet partners then? – I don’t meet people much
but if at all maybe school friends or work friends…
That’s it. – That is a lot better and more natural
Meeting people over apps, starts with writing words
right? But you don’t meet them in person
and have just written communication. It’s scary. It’s better to
meet a person and see their facial expression and such.
That will make you like a person.
You also said “wedding apps”? What’s that
It’s apps for young men and women who want meet with the purpose to marry
each other in the future. – So no
shallow dating but dating with the purpose
of finding a wedding partner. – I think so
If you just want to be playing around
you shouldn’t register for those apps.
Those are only for people who want to marry soon
Those people sign up. If you wanna play around, use
a different app.
So in Japan your apps are divided by purpose. – Yes different purposes
depending on that there are lots of apps.
Find an app that matches your intent
and meet people there. – But you won’t
Yeah. – We won’t use them. It’s too scary.
I might think we are meeting as friends but
that might be fine. But when it’s around dating then…
I would be scared. I wouldn’t be able to trust him. – And you’d wonder
what he has done until now. There are people who lie on their profile
and such. We can’t trust people online.
What if he edited his face!! – Nowadays technology is so progressed
and a normal phone can take beautifying pictures.
Did you meet someone recently?
Not at all? – Nobody no. – Now abroad
dating apps are getting popular and you can swipe left or right
to get a match like Tinder and such. Many people are using it.
How about you boys? – I haven’t used it. – Me neither
Is there a prejudice against those? – I think there might be
You have to register your phone number and that date might be misused
that’s scary. – Meeting strangers is scary.
You won’t have much information. Meeting strangers is scary.
How do you meet people in Japan then? – Well…
get along with girls at university or similar
I wouldn’t chat up strangers. Just think they’re cute to myself.
You think that won’t make a move. Japan’s shy heart?
Might be. – Yeah university girls and such?
Girls I know from a job or my university. – Do you think those apps will boom?
There might be a short boom but
like a game or similar. Just for the youngsters
aged around 30-40 – What do you think?
I think only a small percent of people will use those apps.
I don’t think it will spread around Japan.
Now it looks like dating apps are still a minor thing. Some people said oh
yeah they are coming into fashion right now, more people are using them. But it is still
kind of frowned upon. Girls seem to be very specific on how
they separate how you use those apps. Meaning you use certain apps for just dating
people, playing around, and then you use another app for marriage and that seems to be
a thing that’s more tied into Japanese culture. Here there are still
Omiai which is a way where someone will arrange a meetup between two
people. It’s like a blind date but the difference is you get specs
of the other person like how old they are and what they work and there is like a
person in the middle that will introduce them to each other. The goal is not
dating. The goal of an omiai is marriage. That ties a little bit into the Japanese
culture of saying “Marriage hunting” trying to look for a partner for marriage
and girls seem to be very good at separating. There is a certain point
in their lives where I have seen a lot of people going “Ok fun was then. Now it’s
serious.” and sometimes I heard stories of girls dating one guy and he’s like “Im not ready to
marry yet” then they split and the girl marries quickly cause they wanna marry. So marriage
is still a little bit different from what it might be in your country and that’s how the dating app
are also used in different ways. First of all you wanna be on the right dating app
depending on what you want here. And at the same time also, very important thing that many girls
said is that they’re worried about the safety of it and the dangers of it, meaning
people putting up pictures that are not them. Their data being used for something else
or also people being dishonest and not getting out there
with the right reasons or making up lies about themselves who they are and what they’re doing. So there’s still
a negative image to online dating in a way and that might not change
as quickly as it might have changed in your country here. It’s still the better thing to find
someone in your circle: from school, university or work place
or your job to then go out with. So dating apps again: It’s not that
Japanese people are not using them but they’re a lot more careful than in other countries but
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